Imagine you have a loved one who has a problem with a vice. Out of love for this individual, you decide to approach him or her, in the hopes of helping them see the issue and perhaps begin remedying it. Perhaps they accept your counsel, perhaps their pride blocks you; this is a risk you’re willing to accept because your love for the person is unconditional, and you only want to see what’s best.

Mainstream Christian thought is that homosexual acts are morally wrong, though the dignity of the practicer remains, and therefore must be loved and embraced always. The act is likened to any other sin (ought to be remedied), the actor to any other sinner (in need of God’s grace, a work in progress). Whether one agrees with that or not, it’s not going to go well for the homosexual when:

a.) the issue at hand, sexuality, is much more closely aligned with human nature than, say, drinking or gambling habits, and,
b.) those who practice homosexuality tend to self-identify as a homosexual person.

Reason b in particular puts an enormous amount of damage on any meaningful dialogue. And, of course, without meaningful dialogue, any well-intended intervention cannot progress. If the default is that a conversation’s progress can only be one-sided, then conversation is best left unstarted. Dialogue stalls before it even starts.
One would not hear someone say “I am a drug addict,” without an understanding that either:

a.) they really mean “I’m working on fixing an old drug problem,” or
b.) “I currently use drugs” though my identity is not defined by drug use.

And, as either of those tenets are a given, the potential for dialogue is not destroyed. Either the first is true, in which case the user recognizes a problem that warrants fixing. Or the second is true, in which case the potential end of drug use does not equate to the end of the person entirely.

The homosexual community replaces both tenets with:

a.) My existence is defined by the fact that I do what I do with members of my own sex, and
b.) If you’re going to love and accept me, you have to love and accept that I do what I do with members of my own sex.

Translation — we can’t talk about that thing you do over there, and I have to deal with it. Dialogue: over.

Currently, almost all homosexual chatter today is centered on to what extent ought society embrace those with homosexual inclinations. Wrong discussion. The resolution of society’s collective opinion – including a potential end of homophobia — will not happen whilst the debate centers on anything besides something along the lines of the existence of natural law, its potential application to sexual practice, and the (im)morality of said practice.

If, indeed, the traditional thinking of sexuality is proven incorrect, that natural law is wrong or does not exist, then so be it; the homosexual community and others attached to the homosexual lifestyle need fear nothing. That conclusion, though, cannot be forced. It can only be arrived at through the open discussion among everyone, percolating until the collective conscience is formed.

Legitimate intellectual ends cannot be forced. That they often are is the very inertia behind the creation of The Only Orthodoxy; this site asks you not to conform to pre-existing assumptions, only that you come armed with reason in support of your own. The current climate surrounding many sociopolitical issues, of which homosexuality is a great example, would do well to heed that lesson.